Blue Flower


I was watching the Today show with Martin's dad and since it's the Christmas season, there were endless ads and segments about finding the perfect gift and beautifully decorating your home and trying not to be overwhelmed by the demands of the fast-approaching Christmas Day. I observed to Dad that there is no need for the huge number of things people are pressured into doing because the true "reason for the season" is the birth of Jesus and that is a glad celebration that we can keep within our hearts and by being kind and loving to everybody... that, in fact, the only reason people even think about gift giving in relation to Jesus' birth is because the three wise men brought him presents. So, okay, in that spirit we can give gifts that we can afford to the children we love, and perhaps even give to other people's children if their parents cannot afford to. Beyond that, just let go of your stress and guilt and free yourself to let the true spirit of Christmas enter your heart and mind!

In a similar way I was musing on what's truly important about loving someone. I have the luxury of being able to lie in bed, talking and cuddling with Martin, sometimes (gasp) even in the middle of the afternoon... and I've realized this is the very essence of what I want from a loving relationship, not riches, not jewelry, not fabulous vacations or anything else, simply the sublime happiness of spending quiet, affectionate time with the one person in the world you love the very most. No matter what the ads say, a kiss doesn't have to begin with Kay.

In a similar vein, I had steak the other night for dinner and it was... okay... just okay. Today I had boiled chicken and broth with steel cut oats, salt and pepper, and, honestly, I enjoyed it much more than the steak. In case you haven't figured it out, what I'm advocating to you is simplicity and appreciation in all realms of life, whether it's how to celebrate Christmas, how to express love, how to nourish yourself. If you have allowed yourself to be persuaded by commercials and movies to never feel that your life is quite good enough, quite what it should be... then I beg you to open yourself to the possibility that chasing that belief will make you very unhappy... and is only meant to put money in someone else's pocket... and take it out of yours.

With a heart full of love and happiness, I wish you and yours a wonderful and meaningful Christmas and any other seasonal holiday that you care to celebrate!

Well, you're here which undoubtedly is far better than having your face gnawed off by a rabid bear, but that's probably not going to happen so let's move on, ok?

What is CopeWithMartin and what does it all mean?

You probably think it's about coping with me, Martin and to some extent you would be correct, but since there are two people who contribute to this site, myself, Martin Amell and the love of my life, the one and only, wonderful Sylvia Cope. Yes, Sylvia has the unique distinction of having to cope with me on a regular basis. Anyone who knows me also knows coping with me probably ain't the easiest task you've ever had to endure. It could be worse though so there you have it. Cope is Sylvia's last name and I'm Martin so the site is CopeWithMartin. Get it? 

No? Well that's just too bad. We called the site CopeWithMartin and the name is going to stick so get over it.

What can you find here on CopeWithMartin?

Our opinions are important to us and although we don't always agree on everything we do agree on many things. You'll get to read our opinions on many things, agreements along with disagreements. This site is really about our lives, the things we share as well as the things we keep separate. You probably won't find our deepest held secrets we're trying to keep from each other since we both read and contribute to CopeWithMartin. That wouldn't make a lot of sense now would it?

We also both enjoy writing and it's not all just opinions pieces. You might find a recipe for something delicious or something bland and maybe something you'll regret ever putting in your mouth. We promise to never intentionally poison you with dangerous substances. It is, after all up to you what you eat and drink.

You might also find just news of the day, family announcements, pictures of things we grow in the garden or perhaps something I've built in the woodshop or something I'm planning to build. You never really know until you bother looking over the site.

The site is still new

Although still new, which by the way means there's not much here yet this site won't always remain new. This particular paragraph, however will probably remain here telling you it's new. It'll be up to you to determine when it's no longer new. There probably will never be the grand announcement to tell you that CopeWithMartin is finally not new.

Can you, a visitor become a contributor?

We're not sure yet, but you're more than welcome to ask. There are no guarantees so don't go telling everyone you were promised to be a contributor when no such promises have been made.

You can become a member which gives you really nothing other than a little text with your name on it. Yey, huh? Just ask. Still, no guarantees.

Thank you!

We're glad you stopped by and encourage you to do so often. Tell your friends, family, co-workers and ever stranger you pass by on the street, sidewalk or grocery store. They'll appreciate it and will probably never bother to visit after you tell them how awesome CopeWithMartin really is, but those are the breaks. Do it anyway!